SEL

SOCIAL EMOTIONAL LEARNING

At Brimmer and May, Social Emotional Learning (SEL) is central to our commitment to fostering student growth and well-being. In partnership with our dedicated SEL committee, we have developed a customized framework that draws on leading research and is thoughtfully designed to address the unique needs of our community.

Recognizing that a single program cannot meet every need, we’ve intentionally selected and integrated diverse resources to align with our school’s Mission and Core Values. Our framework is further strengthened by practical tools such as the Behavior Response Rubric and Core Values in Action, which promote consistency across the Lower School and provide students with clear, shared expectations.

Definition of SEL Competencies

List of 5 items.

  • Self-Awareness

    The ability to understand one’s own emotions, thoughts, and values and how they influence behavior across contexts. This includes recognizing one’s strengths and limitations while using a growth mindset. Self-awareness includes abilities such as: identifying and naming emotions, demonstrating pride in personal and cultural identity, examining prejudices and biases, developing interests and a sense of purpose, and reflecting on one’s personal role and contributions within a community.  
  • Self-Management

    The ability to regulate one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in different situations. This includes the capacities to delay gratification, manage stress, and feel motivation to accomplish goals. This also includes the ability to cultivate resilience to overcome challenges. Self-management includes abilities such as: managing frustrations and disappointments, controlling one’s body and voice appropriately in relation to others and the situation, participating in a group respectfully, and showing initiative to take risks in various settings. 
  • Social Awareness

    The ability to recognize, appreciate, or understand another’s emotions or feelings; to be open to new ideas and perspectives; and to appreciate and value differences in opinion and diversity in others. This includes the ability to feel compassion for others and to apply the Core Values in different settings.  Social Awareness includes abilities such as: showing concern and care for the feelings of others, leaning into other’s perspective with curiosity and willingness to learn, understanding the impact of one’s actions on others, and understanding the role of biases and stereotypes on behavior and actions. 
  • Relationship Skills

    The ability to maintain and navigate healthy interpersonal connections with peers, family members, and other individuals. These skills require students to use effective communication skills, empathy, active listening, conflict resolution strategies, and cooperation among others. Social Awareness includes abilities such as: demonstrating respect for each other’s diversity, practicing teamwork and collaborative problem-solving, seeking or offering support and help, and taking initiative to do what is right, fair, and equitable.
  • Responsible Decision-Making

    The ability to understand and put into action the thoughtful steps of making decisions and follow through on commitments and responsibilities to others.  This includes defining the problem, considering consequences, and choosing a solution that is helpful and appropriate for themselves and others.  Responsible Decision Making includes abilities such as: making decisions with empathy and care, holding yourself accountable for the decisions you make, and taking care of yourself, others, your community, and property.

Kimberly Formisano, Head of Lower School

At Brimmer and May, students, faculty, and parents work together to deepen their understanding of essential SEL skills. Through this shared commitment, we nurture a compassionate and supportive community where every student can thrive both academically and socially.
As an inclusive private school community, Brimmer welcomes students who will increase the diversity of our school. We do not discriminate on the basis of race, religion, sex, gender, gender identity and expression, disability, sexual orientation, national origin, ancestry, or any other characteristic protected from discrimination under state or federal law, in the administration of our educational policies, admissions practices, financial aid decisions, and athletic and other school-administered programs.